My kid asked me, "How do you know if you're Transgender?"

Parent Intentionally & Be Specific with your parenting goals!
(You might just get amazing moments like this!)

My kid was 4 years-old when I first explained to her what gender was. Since then we’ve talked about gender expression and gender stereotypes. I’ve shared with her the history of clothes and colors - (to her utter bewilderment that women were forbidden from wearing pants in the past!) I have asked her, on multiple occasions, if she felt like a girl or boy, or a combination of both or neither. And I’ve explained what transgender means along the way. All of these talks have been happening since the beginning of the Primary Age using medically-accurate language in an age-appropriate way.

So when she asked me, “How do you know if you’re transgender?” I immediately felt proud. Proud in that moment that she felt comfortable coming to me with this question because she valued my knowledge and advice. Proud that she was curious and questioning while seeking more knowledge. Proud that she didn’t hesitate to ask me because she not only sees me as her mom but also as a safe person.

I praised her question and said, “It’s actually perfect timing that you asked this question because it’s PRIDE month. Do you know what that means?” She said yeah and then shared that the reason she was asking was because she saw the PRIDE flag with the trans-inclusive part included and was unsure “how you know if you’re trans.”