Tell me if you’ve heard this ⬇️

“The Talk is a thing of the past! You can’t just have one big sex talk and think your kid is ready for the adult world. The Talk is actually ‘The Talks’ - where you have lots of little talks about sex and sexuality throughout the years.”

So many we well-intentioned organizations, journalists, and parenting experts will tell parents this. And while this soundbite sounds great - it doesn’t actually help parents with the most difficult part of having the talks - giving parents the words to actually say to their kids!

This was my frustration back in 2020. I saw so many news articles saying this over and over and over again yet they never dove into it. They never provided practical guidance or advice that parents could use in that moment! I decided to do something about that and since 2020, I have guided thousands of parents from 80+ countries on what to actually say when their kid asks them a sex question.

In the past year alone, over 15k parents have downloaded my Top Talks Starter Pack and nearly 200 parents have reached out to say, “Thank you!” One parent told me (and it’s a common theme I hear from a lot of parents):

When you’re confident telling your kid where babies come from or explaining what sex is, your kid sees that - they feel that. Because it’s not just about giving them the medically-accurate information - it’s about WHY you’re giving them this information at this moment in time.

I don’t want you to feel anxious in that moment that you might be saying the wrong thing. I want you feeling ready to support your kid’s curiosity and to show them that you are so happy that they chose to ask you their question instead of turning elsewhere. Because this will have a domino effect.

Your kid will feed off your willingness to talk to them. Every kid feels good when their parent praises their questions and tells them that they are so happy that they asked the question. This creates a home environment where your kid feels safe and comfortable to ask you about anything they read, see, or hear about. Isn’t that what you want?

Here’s what I want you to know ⬇️

When kids feel safe and supported in the home, they are more likely to ask their parents questions and seek out their advice as they get older. Creating a warm and comfortable home environment doesn’t just magically happen. It takes consistency in how you respond to ALL of your kid’s questions - not just the sex questions.

Here’s what I recommend you do ⬇️

The next time your kid asks you a question - any question, not just a sex question - I want you to tell them, “That’s a great question! I’m so happy you asked me that. Before I answer it, why don’t you tell me what got you thinking about that?”

This shows your kid you’re happy they’ve asked the question, and not only that, but happy they’ve asked you! Then it buys yourself some time to hear what they’ve heard before you answer it. But the key to making this all work is knowing the common questions that kids ask in each age range.

You don’t need to know how to answer every sex question under the sun when your kid is 6 years old! You just need to know what the common questions are at that age range and be prepared to answer those. This helps you to stay focused on what topics are age-appropriate and it gives you time to prepare. Instead of being caught off guard when your kid actually asks the question, you’re caught off guard while preparing for the potential question! That’s a great thing!

What are you doing now to get prepared for when your kid asks you a sex question? If you have no idea where to begin - start with watching the Top Talks Free Preview and learn how the sex talks layer upon each other in each age range. You can assess where you are in the talks and see which talks are coming up in the next year!

The Sex Talk ≠ The Where do Babies Come From Talk

I teach parents to separate the Where do Babies Come From Talk from the Sex Talk for a variety of reasons. One of the big reasons being - you can stay focused and not give your kid too much information too soon! Here’s why ⬇️

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Success Stories from Parents 💕

My kids are on summer break! I’ll be taking some time to be with family but I’ll still be here. (I’m gearing up to have the next sex talk before the end of summer with my own kid! The Talks don’t take a break because it’s summer vacation!)

Newsletter will be emailed every Thursday and of course, you can always see what I’m up to in my IG stories! Happy Summer! -Kathleen 💕

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