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“OMG my 10 year-old just walked in on us 🙈 -What do I say?”

We all know we should lock the bedroom door. But sometimes we forget. And of course that’s the one time when our kiddo wakes up to ask for some water. 🙈 We’re now in the situation that we’ve tried to avoid since our kid was able to escape the crib.

Last week I spoke with Huffington Post UK about just that. What to do when your kid walks in on you having sex. You can read the full article here ⤵️

You probably noticed that the article focused on younger kids. Kids in the primary age, ages 4,5,6 maybe even 7 and what I recommend to say when your young kid enters the room unexpectedly which is, “Are you OK?” 

Asking this question when you’re in this situation, puts the focus on the child and why they came into the bedroom. The child may answer this question with a response like, “yeah” or “I thought I heard something.” You can then easily follow-up by saying, “Ok. I didn’t hear you knock. It’s respectful to knock before entering someone’s room. Since you are OK, can we practice knocking? Can you go back out, shut the door, and knock?”

This simple response buys you some time to first - gather yourself and second - put your clothes on. Then you can calmly address the situation. (If you want to read the script I suggest, here you go!)

But what do you do if your kid is older and maybe they already knows what sex is but you’ve never actually had the sex talk? What do you say? Well, lucky for you (I mean it’s not really a stroke of luck in this moment is it?) they aren’t sticking around to have a chat with you! It’s an, “OH!” and an immediate exit. So, this actually gives you the chance to gather yourself and go to them and say: