“Can we just … not talk about this.”

So you’ve downloaded my Sex Talk Starter Pack, you watched Top Talks, you even practiced saying the scripts! You were prepared and ready to dive into the talks - so you confidently did! But the moment you said the word sex, your kid shut you down.

“Mom - I don’t want to talk about this!” That’s when they got up and left the room. 😳 

When a kid says this, it most likely means they’ve already learned about sex. But don’t assume your kid already knows everything! In fact, most kids who have this reaction to their parent’s first attempt at having a sex talk usually 1. don’t know everything and 2. do in fact want to talk about it. Here’s what I mean ⤵️

When a kid doesn’t feel comfortable asking their parents questions about sex, their questions don’t just evaporate. They’re still curious and they will go searching for answers from other sources. This can be from friends, other adults, older siblings/cousins, or the internet. The information they get may be somewhat correct but usually it’s not fully accurate.

Because your kid was embarrassed, afraid, or worried to ask you their question when they were younger they may now have feelings of shame about the topic. And the only way they know how to avoid feeling shame is to simply not talk about it.

So this leaves you wondering, what do I do? How do I proceed in making sure my kid has accurate information about sex but doesn’t feel embarrassed to talk about it with me?

I want you to know that you’re not alone. Many parents have been where you are and others are currently in this situation. Here’s what you need to do.