Is 9 years old TOO early to have the Sex Talk?

Since I started working exclusively with parents in 2020, these are the Top 3 common concerns I hear regularly from parents about having The Sex Talk:

• “I don’t want to overwhelm my kid with information that she’s not interested in.”

• “It seems like it’s just a little too much information for a 9 year-old.”

• “I’d prefer to just explain vaginal sex right now and then tell him about the other types when he’s older?”

It really does seem like kids in the Intermediate (7,8,9) age are completely uninterested in learning about sex - which is basically true - kids aren’t interested in sex! Kids in the Intermediate age think the idea of sex is gross and are genuinely shocked to learn that sex is something adults do with other adults.

So why am I pushing you to have a talk that’s only going to gross your kid out?

1. It’s Age-Appropriate Information

Many parents tell me that they want to be the person to explain what sex is to their kid before anybody else does. They want their kid to hear this information from them so that they know their kid has accurate and factual information. If you can relate to this, then having the Sex Talk in the Intermediate (7,8,9) age is your best bet.